So it's like this....

[MCRapier9]

i have a friend that i'm very close to. day in and day out i always say to her "what would i do without you". I'm starting to realize that i have feelings for her that go beyond friendship, and i want to act upon them, but i'm so deathly afraid of messing the relationship up that i keep my silence. It's something that is always on my mind everyday, with her. so...what would any of you do in this situation?

[S...]

Thats always a tough situation, moving out of the "friendZone"

I suggest reaffirming just how tight your friendship is, by making a move. Not necassarily a physical move, just say something. or do something that lets her know how you feel. If you two are truly close, it's not like she's gonna blantently shoot you down, she'll probably just apologize or agree with you. You'll feel even worse if you never act on it, trust me.

[UG Fiend]

You must convey your true feelings to her, but at the same time tell her that any kind of relationship with her is a blessing, and that you would be willing to still remain friends if she doesn't want the intimate relationship you so desire.....if you really feel this way. Quite frankly I've never had female friends weren't a) fuckfriends or b) already married or in another relationship. I don't see how you guys do it.

[Dr. Kris Knacker]

you two should sit down and watch the Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Elaine dicuss "Rules" to dating friends!

i.e. no calling after sex, at least 2 days to wait before calling, etc...

[soysauce]

i've had a couple real close guy friends that started liking me... and i have to say that i KNEW they liked me and i didn't like them back... i ended up avoiding a couple of them because i didn't want to ruin our friendship(s) and i didn't want to hook up with them.. i only talked about it to one of them because he was getting mad at me for hanging out with with some of his friends and then we got into a big talk about why he was really mad at me which was because he liked me and i told him that i kinda knew and that i didn't like him and i hoped that i hadn't given him the impression that i did etc. etc... basically, if she's a perceptive person, she might already know you kinda have feelings from her and you should try and see how she acts towards you (like if she's flirty she might like you too)... i mean if you're hanging out all the time you must have some sort of idea about how she feels about you.. or you could always beat around the bush and say something flirty to her and see how she reacts kinda thing...

i wouldn't sit and talk to her straight up about it unless you think you have a good chance because if she did end up rejecting you then how would you feel about kickin it with her still? might ruin the friendship if you push on a relationship...

[mf sw]

I used to be like "best freinds" with this chick, we were freinds for like 4 years, I went to the prom with her we had a great time together blah blah blah etc etc. Also it was kind of like mutually understood that we were attracted to one and other but we never really like got it on or anything. So, on christmas eve one year were at her house, in her room watching Poison Ivy II (great fuckin movie by the way) and I'm just kinda like commenting on how great I think the chick in this movie is and how I think it would be a better world if every girl was like that and stupid shit like that, I was kinda half serious. So next thing I know were kinda like dry humping on her bed, she's licking my abdominal area and she says "what would you do if I gave you head right now?" so then, like a fuckin pussy ass bitch that I am I do the whole "I dont wanna fuck up our freindship" thing and then we just kinda cuddle and then I go home a few hours later and I'm like "we'll see where this goes" so then, on new years eve we go out and were at the Cactus club and outta nowhere we just start making out/dancing while this fuckin punk band is playing. She definatly initiated it, but I wasnt backing off by any means (this chick is like REALLY fucking hot, btw) then then we leave and a few hours later were like kinda drunk and were at this hotel with a bunch of people, and I'm kinda like talking to these other people and she's talking to this dude, and next thing I know she takes off with this dudes and fucks him! So I'm like wtf? I got extremely jealous even though I really had no reason to becuase she wasnt my girlfreind and I we had no commitments toward eachother at all, shit, I wouldve fucked some other chick that night given the opportunity so how can I get mad at her and get all jealous? But anyway, after that night I was like "fuck her" and I pretty much just started ignoring her and it was stupid and she was like "I love you so much, I cant belive youre just not taking to me" and I was like "fuck you" and that was pretty much it. Now, I regret it and I wish I ws still freinds with her cuz she was one of the only "real" freinds I've ever had.....So......... what does this have to do with your situation....

oh yeah, my moral here is that if you have the opportunity to have sex with this chick, do it. Dont worry about it fucking up the freindship because the freindship can get fucked up anyhow and you dont wann end up like me, no feindship and you didnt even fuck her.... That may not sound good, but thats my take on the situation.

peace

[highlife]

my advice: tell her what's up and if she doesn't feel the same then i would break off any relationship you have with her. i've been in the same situation and after the facts have been stated, the relationship NEVER feels the same. she'll end up hooking up with other dudes and you will feel so jealous and heated. it's not worth your frustration. just keep it to yourself and stay 'friends' or tell her and hope she feels the same. or at least lets you f her for goodbye's sake.

[LBFam]

Originally posted by mf sw
oh yeah, my moral here is that if you have the opportunity to have sex with this chick, do it. Dont worry about it fucking up the freindship because the freindship can get fucked up anyhow and you dont wann end up like me, no feindship and you didnt even fuck her....

this has to be one of the best quotes ever on this forum..

s-dub:
http://www.empowerucards.com/cards/c...ob%20Small.jpg

[highlife]

"I'm kinda like talking to these other people and she's talking to this dude, and next thing I know she takes off with this dudes and fucks him! So I'm like wtf? I got extremely jealous even though I really had no reason to becuase she wasnt my girlfreind and I we had no commitments toward eachother at all, shit, I wouldve fucked some other chick that night given the opportunity so how can I get mad at her and get all jealous? But anyway, after that night I was like "fuck her" and I pretty much just started ignoring her and it was stupid and she was like "I love you so much, I cant belive youre just not taking to me" and I was like "fuck you" and that was pretty much it."

what a little slut. you're better off beatin' your meat and staying clean nowadays. fuck girls.

ps. how do you quote specific phrases or sentances in posts instead of having to quote the entire thing?

[MCRapier9]

Originally posted by highlife

ps. how do you quote specific phrases or sentances in posts instead of having to quote the entire thing?

you gotta delete everything except what you're tryin to quote

[mf sw]

Originally posted by LBFam
this has to be one of the best quotes ever on this forum..

s-dub:
http://www.empowerucards.com/cards/c...ob%20Small.jpg

thats how I feel about it man. Even though, like..... I could have fucked her. It was MY decision not to for the fuckin freind reason and then I get pissed when she fucks some other dude...... and then I'm like "fuck you!" with no further explanation.... I handled the situation very badly I think, especially considering that we were like really good freinds. But now when I look back on it....... I shoulda let her suck my dick in her room that night.

[S...]

Originally posted by highlife
[B]what a little slut. [B]

Thats what i was thinking.

Sounds like a http://www.kenyontools.com/images/34-422_423_420.gif to me.

[mf sw]

Originally posted by S...
Thats what i was thinking.

Sounds like a http://www.kenyontools.com/images/34-422_423_420.gif to me.

pretty much, yes. But she WAS cool as fuck though, I just made the mistake (well, I guess we both did) of forming some sick little "I wanna fuck you but lets be freinds" relationship with someone like that.

[Ojay]

man, obviously you care for this girl.. and it seems like it's real since you're her friend and you tell her all the time how much she means to you.. i don't buy this shit about girls not liking their guy friends.. no offense ladies.. but if you don't like the dude, why are you his friend? the attention? i don't get it.. what i'm saying is.. it seems like you like her for who she is on the inside.. she's your friend for the same reason.. isn't that a girl's supposed dream? to fall in love with a friend? to let a relationship grow? if she says she don't like you that way.. then you know where she stands.. she wants your friendship and advice and gentlemanly presence, but not a relationship with you.. you can move on. try asking her out for valentine's day.. the timing's perfect... what better way to spend valentine's than to be with people who really mean something to you (family and friends)? ask her as a friend.. just see where it goes.. maybe she'll come around.. maybe she feels the same way. i know i'm not much help.. but whatever you decide to do.. good luck man.

[mf sw]

Originally posted by Ojay revilO
what better way to spend valentine's than to be with people who really mean something to you (family and friends

FUCK valetines day. I will not observe this day since its not for me to celebrate.